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WORD UP WEDNESDAY….


This weeks Word is….

 SPEECHLESS

OR NO LONGER SILENT, TALKING, WOOHOO, YIPPEE, PRAISE GOD, HALLELUJAH, YAY

In other words Abi started talking today! After almost 3 months of total silence she burst open today and overcome her fears. There are no words to describe how this Mama feels right now!

Thank you Jesus, you still answer prayers!

There will be much more on this tomorrow, right now I have to go talk to my baby girl. Love you!

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Tuesday’s Aspie update


So today is Tuesday and yep we spent it sitting in a waiting room waiting on Jacob. while he sat in a cozy office and played Angry Birds! He had another great review. She said that next week is his test. He will be home with me all week and usually this is when things fall apart. He thinks that since he is at home he doesn’t have to worry about how much time he spends on his media or anything else. So keep your fingers crossed that all goes well and that at the end of next week I still have a head full of blackish red hair!

In other news he came down with a stomach flu tonight. It hit hard but seemed to pass really quickly. I am hoping that he is all good to go in the morning and I do not have to spend my day at the doctors office.

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TUESDAY’S ASPIE UPDATE….


Ok so like every Tuesday Jacob had counseling today… Pretty much standard meeting. She just wanted to find out how he was doing on the behavior chart we have worked on for a few week. He did AWESOME last week and showed us that when he puts his mind to it he really can behave like a little gentleman versus the wild indian we see much of the time! I love Jacob so very much and honestly wouldn’t cure him of the Aspergers if given the chance. Over the past 5 years we have known he was an ASPIE we have grown to love his quirkiness, as long as no one is getting hurt! I’ll list the behaviors below that he is working on. He gets a nickel for each one he gets a smiley face for on Sunday and his counselor lets him play Angry Birds on her phone if he gets a certain amount of points during the week. This past week he received 47/50 points! the 3 points he missed were for sneaking and playing video games while grounded!

 

Current Behaviors being monitored:

  1. limiting media possible 7 point
  2. hitting, kicking, pushing, possible 7 points
  3. getting to school without issue possible 5 points
  4. staying at school all day possible 5 points
  5. doing homework without issue possible 5 points
  6. back-talking possible 7 points
  7. self-control possible 7 points
  8. threatening possible 7 points

total possible points 50

If he gets all 50 points we will reward him with an extra 50 cents for a possible weekly allowance of $3.00!

Once he has met the terms of his contract (I’ll post more on that another day!)  a new one will be written out and a new behavior list made up, but for now we are very pleased with the progress of our Tuesday’s ASPIE!


I have actually had a binder (let me rephrase that…several binders) with my routines and such for several years. Do I use it (them) on occasion but for the most part no. So on Monday I began the mission of figuring out why I didn’t use my binder(s) and how to change that.

First and foremost thought was…I HAD WAY TOO MANY!

I counted 7 but I am pretty sure some were playing double duty!

Secondly that although I am an advocate of routines and schedules and am always revamping my own, they don’t do you much good if you don’t use them. And well most of these binders were filled with routines, schedules and to-do lists that I never even looked at. It was all just too overwhelming. I had to minimize and reorganize. So I made a mess!

I spent pretty much an entire day, just going through each binder, pulling out what I wanted/needed and trashing the rest.

After the big binder de-clutter I was able to downsize from 7 unused binders to 3 I’d better start using binders and 1 folder!

 These are from left to right 1. My Cub Scout binder 2. My F.A.C.E binder (the one I am really iffy about!) 3. My to do folder and 4. My L.M.B (Life Management Binder)

Obviously the Cub Scout binder holds my lesson plans and curriculum. I also have a Cub Scout section in my L.M.B which I place my attendance records and Scout info. The F.A.C.E Binder is a printable control journal on Flylady.net that is supposed to help you gain control of your finances. Honestly I have never opened it so I can’t say whether it works or not…. The to do folder is self explanatory, if I need to do something (fill out a form, sign something, fix something, etc.) and can’t do it right away, it goes into the folder. Each night I do my best to work through the folder so that t is empty in the morning.

Then there is the Life Management Binder or the L.M.B as I call it. This is the binder at the front and center of my life. It has several sections, each section covers a different aspect of my life that could use better management…

First in the L.M.B is the calendars section…. In this section I have included all my calendars. The school calendar, cub scout calendar, my week at a glance calendar, and any other calendars I happen to get in the course of my merry ol life..

Next is the Schedules and Routines section… In this section I have included everyone’s daily schedules, my weekly and monthly schedules and everyone’s daily routines.

Up next is my Housekeeping section… this section is all about cleaning.  I have my weekly cleaning lists, hot spot lists and everyone’s daily chores listed out as well as the house rules and media rules.

Next up is My Finances section… all money related things go here. Bill pay passwords and monthly due dates of the regular bills are listed out. I also have included a subsection here called Menu Planning where I keep all my menu calendars and such.

Then there is the School section… Here I have placed all the school info I need to hang on to. Extra car tag, handbook. Teacher notes, medicine forms and ect.

My Scout section is next. Here I plan to place my attendance forms and parent contact info as well as lesson plans and outing info.

The next 4 sections are dedicated to each family members medical info. Medicines we take. Doctor note etc. with 2 special needs children and a special needs spouse I do not use these sections nearly enough!

After the medical sections comes the sections on my little business Crocheted Creations in which I put product info and ideas. As well as sell info and other business related stuff. Then there is a little section just for this blog, where  I put all my blog info and ideas.

And since I was running out of tab dividers and ideas for tabs the next section is labeled other! In this section I have placed everything else that I think belongs in my L.M.B but couldn’t be placed in a section alone.

Then I have my contacts section in which I plan to place everyone’s address email and phone number that I actually use. It will make filling out invites thank you’s and Christmas cards much quicker!

Then Last but not least is my Inspirational section. Here I have placed a few of my favorite poems and such. Things that I can read for a quick pick me up when my spirits are down.

And there you have it. I apologize that this has turned out to be so long. and for those of you who have waited I actually started this post on August 6 and today is August 14 (my Daddy’s birthday!) I do plan to do a follow-up of this post and include all my routines and possibly my schedules and give you a peak of my kids companion binders which they call their Kids Constitution! But that is another day for now I am exhausted and sick. Goodnight!

My week at a glance…..


MONDAY August 1, 2011

Kids started school. Jacob is now a 3rd grader and Abi has finally made it to big kid school and is now a kindergartener! Where on Earth did summer go. The heat came in like a slap in the face but the lazy days of summer never made it to my house!  I hope my kids enjoy their school year and always remember to do their best!

Tuesday August 2, 2011

Ugh! This morning was horrible! Just like in years past Jacob refused to get up and ready for school. By 7am I had been called stupid lazy and mean. Apparently I am the worst mother on Earth just because I make my kids get up get dressed and go to school. I know he has Aspergers and all but I can not keep doing this.

He did have a counseling appointment Tuesday afternoon, which he hates. He says Ms Christel is horrible and tells us to do horrible things to him.. LOL she is a big advocate of routines and schedules, so he hates her!  He refuses to do anything she asks him to do. He says routines ans schedules are mean and are not for him and that if we even tried to understand him we’d know that. Too bad for him I also know that once he gives in and complies to the routines and schedules he does wonderfully!

Also today we talked him into getting his hair trimmed!  He now has eyes, ears and a neck!

I love you Jacob, you will forever be Mama’s Lil man!

WEDNESDAY August 3, 2011

Well as if my life wasn’t already complicated and full of grief and hardship, today I was diagnosed with Pre-diabetes and high Cholesterol. Doctor says I have 6 months to lose at least 30 pounds. He’s not convinced that weight loss alone with help either my sugar levels or my cholesterol so for now he is also putting me on meds to help the cholesterol, gonna wait and see though about the sugar. Guess I’ve gotta get my butt in gear and start eating better and breaking a sweat by exercising not just by sitting in the sun!

THURSDAY  August 4, 2011

Yet again today Jacob caused chaos to break loose in refusing to get up and go to school. I’m not sure why he hates it so much, he does extremely well and always reports having a great day. Also today Abi had a “Play Therapy” appointment. I really think that she enjoys meeting with Ms Lindsey each week. Only time will tell if we’re actually making progress. Which I totally believe we are. She is now making lots of noises, all she lacks is actually speaking which I hope and pray is just around the corner.

FRIDAY  August 5, 2011

TGIF! We made it through the first week of school despite going through hell each and every morning. The new routines and schedules seem to be working pretty well, but I am sure they will require some tweaking soon. My new way of life is becoming easier every day and I am accepting the fact that I just can not eat like everyone else. House is tidy and we can enjoy a weekend of family fun!

Just a little side note here asking you to please feel free to subscribe and follow my blog. I hope that I have at least in some way sparked a bit of interest in you. I have many plans coming up for this blog and would love to share my life with you! So please sign up and join me!


Hey! I guess if I’m gonna do this then I’d better introduce myself, but to do that I’d have to know who I am first… So who am I? Well my name is Melissa, but very few call me that. I have been a wife since December 18, 2002, but that’s not who I am. I am a mother of two beautiful children, but I’m more than that. I love to crochet , but yarn doesn’t complete me. I would give anything to be able to paint or sketch most days but that doesn’t draw the whole picture. I have been known to get lost in a good book, but that still doesn’t tell the whole story.

My husband, Scott, has Bipolar 1 Disorder, but that’s not who he is. My son, Jacob, has Aspergers, but he’s so much more. Daughter, Abigael, recently stopped talking, but even without her voice, she’s much more complex. You see everyone has a title, or a label, but that’s all they are, labels not ingredients. As a child of God, we need to learn how to separate the ingredients from the labels and really get to know who we are.

I’m hoping that this blog will help me to do just that, dig past the labels and look  at the ingredients and decide who I am. Along the way I hope to give others a bit of insight into not only my life but also the life of my family.  I’m far from an expert on Aspergers, Bipolar or Mutism but dealing with it twenty-four seven, I’ve come to know quite a bit about them all and am more than willing to share my knowledge with anyone who may need it.

Now what about my quirky title? LOL I know without a doubt I’m gonna catch quite a bit of grief for “Airing my dirty laundry” all over the internet. My response is… One man’s trash just may be another man’s treasure!

I hope you’ll come back often and follow along as I discover myself and my family…

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