Tag Archive: mutism


AN APOLOGY OF SORTS


I WOULD LIKE TO APOLOGIZE FOR MY LACK OF BLOGGING LATELY. I HAVE HAD A VERY HECTIC WEEK AND HAVE NOT HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TO DO MUCH OF ANYTHING. I PROMISE THE FIRST CHANCE I GET I WILL SIT DOWN AND CATCH EVERYONE UP ON MY WONDERFUL LIFE…

LOVE YOU GUYS!

PS… ABIGAEL STARTED TALKING AGAIN AND SCOTT GOT A JOB!

WORD UP WEDNESDAY….


This weeks Word is….

 SPEECHLESS

OR NO LONGER SILENT, TALKING, WOOHOO, YIPPEE, PRAISE GOD, HALLELUJAH, YAY

In other words Abi started talking today! After almost 3 months of total silence she burst open today and overcome her fears. There are no words to describe how this Mama feels right now!

Thank you Jesus, you still answer prayers!

There will be much more on this tomorrow, right now I have to go talk to my baby girl. Love you!


OK is today really Thursday?! Ugh I have been so sick all day long. I never even changed out of my pj’s! So Thursdays usually mean play therapy for my little silent princess. But today apparently I wasn’t the only one sick in bed, her therapists called this morning and said for me to call her tomorrow to reschedule. good thing because I really don’t think I could have mustard up enough energy to drive to her office, which BTW is only about 20 minutes away!

We were actually looking forward to todays session because Tuesday morning her dad and I met up with several school officaials including her teacher and school counselor and really got the ball rolling on getting her some help at school, just needed her therapist’s signiture on a few things first. Oh well we have waited this long a few more days will not hurt.

On a brighter note, my little silent princess isn’t so silent anymore! She is not talking just yet but she is very vocal with her lalalas and she barked like a dog today while i was reading her library book to her. Oh and she has slipped up a few times and said a few words which unfortunately have immediately been followed by anxiety attacks, but we are making huge progress!!! YAY!!!


I have actually had a binder (let me rephrase that…several binders) with my routines and such for several years. Do I use it (them) on occasion but for the most part no. So on Monday I began the mission of figuring out why I didn’t use my binder(s) and how to change that.

First and foremost thought was…I HAD WAY TOO MANY!

I counted 7 but I am pretty sure some were playing double duty!

Secondly that although I am an advocate of routines and schedules and am always revamping my own, they don’t do you much good if you don’t use them. And well most of these binders were filled with routines, schedules and to-do lists that I never even looked at. It was all just too overwhelming. I had to minimize and reorganize. So I made a mess!

I spent pretty much an entire day, just going through each binder, pulling out what I wanted/needed and trashing the rest.

After the big binder de-clutter I was able to downsize from 7 unused binders to 3 I’d better start using binders and 1 folder!

 These are from left to right 1. My Cub Scout binder 2. My F.A.C.E binder (the one I am really iffy about!) 3. My to do folder and 4. My L.M.B (Life Management Binder)

Obviously the Cub Scout binder holds my lesson plans and curriculum. I also have a Cub Scout section in my L.M.B which I place my attendance records and Scout info. The F.A.C.E Binder is a printable control journal on Flylady.net that is supposed to help you gain control of your finances. Honestly I have never opened it so I can’t say whether it works or not…. The to do folder is self explanatory, if I need to do something (fill out a form, sign something, fix something, etc.) and can’t do it right away, it goes into the folder. Each night I do my best to work through the folder so that t is empty in the morning.

Then there is the Life Management Binder or the L.M.B as I call it. This is the binder at the front and center of my life. It has several sections, each section covers a different aspect of my life that could use better management…

First in the L.M.B is the calendars section…. In this section I have included all my calendars. The school calendar, cub scout calendar, my week at a glance calendar, and any other calendars I happen to get in the course of my merry ol life..

Next is the Schedules and Routines section… In this section I have included everyone’s daily schedules, my weekly and monthly schedules and everyone’s daily routines.

Up next is my Housekeeping section… this section is all about cleaning.  I have my weekly cleaning lists, hot spot lists and everyone’s daily chores listed out as well as the house rules and media rules.

Next up is My Finances section… all money related things go here. Bill pay passwords and monthly due dates of the regular bills are listed out. I also have included a subsection here called Menu Planning where I keep all my menu calendars and such.

Then there is the School section… Here I have placed all the school info I need to hang on to. Extra car tag, handbook. Teacher notes, medicine forms and ect.

My Scout section is next. Here I plan to place my attendance forms and parent contact info as well as lesson plans and outing info.

The next 4 sections are dedicated to each family members medical info. Medicines we take. Doctor note etc. with 2 special needs children and a special needs spouse I do not use these sections nearly enough!

After the medical sections comes the sections on my little business Crocheted Creations in which I put product info and ideas. As well as sell info and other business related stuff. Then there is a little section just for this blog, where  I put all my blog info and ideas.

And since I was running out of tab dividers and ideas for tabs the next section is labeled other! In this section I have placed everything else that I think belongs in my L.M.B but couldn’t be placed in a section alone.

Then I have my contacts section in which I plan to place everyone’s address email and phone number that I actually use. It will make filling out invites thank you’s and Christmas cards much quicker!

Then Last but not least is my Inspirational section. Here I have placed a few of my favorite poems and such. Things that I can read for a quick pick me up when my spirits are down.

And there you have it. I apologize that this has turned out to be so long. and for those of you who have waited I actually started this post on August 6 and today is August 14 (my Daddy’s birthday!) I do plan to do a follow-up of this post and include all my routines and possibly my schedules and give you a peak of my kids companion binders which they call their Kids Constitution! But that is another day for now I am exhausted and sick. Goodnight!

My week at a glance…..


MONDAY August 1, 2011

Kids started school. Jacob is now a 3rd grader and Abi has finally made it to big kid school and is now a kindergartener! Where on Earth did summer go. The heat came in like a slap in the face but the lazy days of summer never made it to my house!  I hope my kids enjoy their school year and always remember to do their best!

Tuesday August 2, 2011

Ugh! This morning was horrible! Just like in years past Jacob refused to get up and ready for school. By 7am I had been called stupid lazy and mean. Apparently I am the worst mother on Earth just because I make my kids get up get dressed and go to school. I know he has Aspergers and all but I can not keep doing this.

He did have a counseling appointment Tuesday afternoon, which he hates. He says Ms Christel is horrible and tells us to do horrible things to him.. LOL she is a big advocate of routines and schedules, so he hates her!  He refuses to do anything she asks him to do. He says routines ans schedules are mean and are not for him and that if we even tried to understand him we’d know that. Too bad for him I also know that once he gives in and complies to the routines and schedules he does wonderfully!

Also today we talked him into getting his hair trimmed!  He now has eyes, ears and a neck!

I love you Jacob, you will forever be Mama’s Lil man!

WEDNESDAY August 3, 2011

Well as if my life wasn’t already complicated and full of grief and hardship, today I was diagnosed with Pre-diabetes and high Cholesterol. Doctor says I have 6 months to lose at least 30 pounds. He’s not convinced that weight loss alone with help either my sugar levels or my cholesterol so for now he is also putting me on meds to help the cholesterol, gonna wait and see though about the sugar. Guess I’ve gotta get my butt in gear and start eating better and breaking a sweat by exercising not just by sitting in the sun!

THURSDAY  August 4, 2011

Yet again today Jacob caused chaos to break loose in refusing to get up and go to school. I’m not sure why he hates it so much, he does extremely well and always reports having a great day. Also today Abi had a “Play Therapy” appointment. I really think that she enjoys meeting with Ms Lindsey each week. Only time will tell if we’re actually making progress. Which I totally believe we are. She is now making lots of noises, all she lacks is actually speaking which I hope and pray is just around the corner.

FRIDAY  August 5, 2011

TGIF! We made it through the first week of school despite going through hell each and every morning. The new routines and schedules seem to be working pretty well, but I am sure they will require some tweaking soon. My new way of life is becoming easier every day and I am accepting the fact that I just can not eat like everyone else. House is tidy and we can enjoy a weekend of family fun!

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The Silent Princess


August 2011 it will be 5 years that we have been blessed with our little princess.  I remember like yesterday finding out that I was pregnant, the joy, the fear, and the unknown. I remember crying and not knowing why. Then just 5 months later I found myself crying again, this time I knew why. My prenatal doctor had called with horrific news. Routine tests I had preformed just a few days earlier showed that my baby girl would likely never see the light of day. They said she had some birth defect that was “incompatible with life”.

But you see I serve a God that is bigger than any birth defect and he determines what is compatible with life, not some man-made test or doctor with many degrees. And late on very hot August afternoon, a beautiful little 6 pound 11 ounce baby girl entered this world.  She immediately captured the heart of everyone around. She was perfect. No birth defects, no abnormalities, an angel in disguise.

It didn’t take very long for anyone to realize that this little girl had the world in her hands and life at her feet. Anything she wanted she got. No one dare tell her no. She set the rules in this world in which she lived. She was very vibrant and full of energy. She met no stranger. She loved everyone, although shy at times she had the will power and strength of a lioness. She could do anything she set her mind to.

Now I find myself crying again. you see we’ve always knew she was a bit shy, and would take a bit to warm up to some people. But recently that shyness has escalated into something bigger. She went the entire school year without even whispering a single word to her teachers or class mates. And today marks the 18th day since my little princess has spoken a single word to anyone. It has been 18 days since I’ve heard her whisper Mama I love you!

This morning we went and talked to a childhood counselor. And after an hour of a million and one questions about every uncomfortable detail of our lives, she looked me in the eye and said, Mam I believe your child has progressive selective mutism. We will start counseling next week. Tonight I’m having a hell of a time coming to terms with the fact that I may never hear my baby girl speak again.

Through the tears though I know that I serve a God who is in control. A God of mercy and love, and I know my baby girl is strong and can over come any anxiety. She may be a silent princess at the moment, but not for long. I will hear her sing again.

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